Old Flames: Let Them Burn Out Before the Day

It's something that may not have crossed your mind, but we suggest you strongly consider whether it's a good idea to invite the ex...even if you now consider each other friends.

You dated him or her once...you parted ways amicably and thought you could "just be friends". You may think you've moved on, but they may be thinking this is their last chance to OBJECT!

I recently spoke with a friend who worked for a very popular Auckland wedding venue for a few years. I asked her, as an observer of many weddings, what her words of wisdom would be for brides and grooms. Her answer was quick and simple. "The number of brides I've seen crying in the bathroom with a harem of women around them because their ex-boyfriend said something he shouldn't, did something he shouldn't or signalled something he shouldn't, is actually staggering. If you're going to invite the ex, you should make sure he or she is over you!"

We suggest you think long and hard about whether Ex-Boyfriend Bob or Ex-Girlfriend Sally have 100% officially moved on...that after a few cocktails, they aren't going to get a bit sentimental...and that they are genuinely happy for you and your new spouse. If things ended amicably, and you are the closest of friends, than no need to worry! If not, we merely suggest you make sure everyone will be on their best behaviour.