Do I Have to Invite His Family?
I have a very small family, while my fiance has a very large family. We have a very small budget, and while my family is giving a large amount towards the wedding, his is giving nothing financially - and yet they expect to be invited and provided for. Can I tell his family they can't come? What do I do?
Corrina, Wellington
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Paula Bevege answers...
What an unfortunate situation. I think you need to sit down and openly discuss this with your partner. What were your expectations of contributors when you starting planning your wedding? Is your partner's immediate family larger than yours? If you are having your immediate family, you should really have the same on his side. Remember: It's not his fault his family is larger.
I think communication is the key here. Perhaps there is some other way to cut costs? Is there some way any of his family can help, other than financially? Maybe they can help you with the invitations, the venue setup etc.
While it may be frustrating, there is one last, very important thing to keep in mind: they are going to be your family soon too.
All the best and good luck,
- Paula
Creative Director, belle vie Event Design & Planning
