What about inviting workmates?
We have split the guest list in two, and now I have a few spares I can invite. What is the etiquette when inviting workmates or employers? I have been in my current position for almost a year. Do I invite my boss?
Dianne, Palmerston North
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Erin answers...
Workmates...it's always a bit of a tricky one. Here's how I would look at it - ask yourself these two questions:
1. In five years, will you still be working here?
2. Yes, you work with these people everyday. But do you actually like them?! Would you turn to them for help, or just to pass the stapler?
There are a couple other things you may want to consider.
Did you get engaged before you started working there? If so, you shouldn't feel obliged to invite workmates, as the wheels were already set in motion before you started your job.
Do you have one or two people you are super close with, or do you generally get along with everyone?
If it's the former, than don't feel bad about inviting just those one or two workmates, as your other colleagues will already be aware of your relationship with them.
If it's the latter, than I suggest one of two options: all or nothing. If you invite a few people, than there is bound to be some bitterness from the others that didn't make the list. If you invite them all, than everyone will feel good - but be aware that you may end up with people at your wedding that you aren't necessarily that close with, and you probably won't even know a few years down the track. If you aren't that fussed, than go for the lot!
The boss...not necessary to invite if you aren't close with him or her. If you invite everyone though, it's probably a smart move if you invite the boss as well!
However, here's an example: I invited my ex-boss to my wedding, as my husband and I became really good friends with both him and his wife. On the flipside, I had been in my job 6 months, but I didn't invite this new boss. She is an amazing woman, but at that stage, I didn't really know her well enough to include her on the guest list. I didn't invite any of my other workmates - and there were no hard feelings...they were all happy for us anyway!
In the end, just go with your instincts. If you want them there - invite them. If you don't know if you want them there - you probably shouldn't invite them. It's your wedding day - a pretty big one on the list of important days - so make sure the people you share your day with are the people you love and care for the most.
